Arranging a Date
“Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as taking, you are not getting it.” -Henry Cloud, How to Get a
Date Worth Keeping
You wouldn’t take apart your toaster oven or repair your blow dryer without some sort of manual right? Dating
can be similar in outward complexity yet when it’s streamlined into black and white, it’s ultimately simple!
Below is a fantastic step by step guide to assist you in arranging a date. You will learn what to say, where to
sit and how to behave so you can become your own dating expert.
Step 1: Ask Them Out
Before you can begin planning a date you must first insure – you have one! In order to land a date you must
accomplish these 3 things:
• Get Their Attention
• Establish Contact
• Express Interest
To gain attention, don’t do anything wacky or out of the ordinary. Rather, make eye contact, see if they look
back, smile and acknowledge their presence.
From there, simply walk up and say Hi! Forget about silly lines you heard in the movies; a simple human greeting
is sufficient. From there, strike up a conversation and
gauge the reaction to you. Are they listening intently or looking around and avoiding you? Do they ask questions
smile and seem pleased or are they bothered by your presence? Once you have determined the person is interested,
move on towards the final step.
Express interest by complimenting them or showing enthusiasm. Buy them a drink or flirt. If they return the
flirtatious gestures or express interest, you have the go ahead – ask them out!
Step 2: Decide your Venue
If this is your first date, it’s always best to plan a date somewhere casual but cozy. A dinner at a rustic
restraint which is not extravagant but has a taste of romance or charm is ideal.
If this is not the first date, plan something special you know they will enjoy such as a concert they would like
or horseback riding. Be creative! If you need help, read our article on fun
first date ideas.
Step 3: Confirm your Date
Once you have an idea of where you want to go, it is a good idea to give your date a call to confirm. Be sure to
go over the details so your date can be prepared. You wouldn’t want them showing up in a mini skirt to go horseback
riding or jeans to a fine dining establishment. If it’s a surprise then give them an idea of what to wear.
Be sure to include the following info when arranging a date:
• If you are picking them up
• Hint or general idea of what you will be doing
Always conclude your confirmation call with a, “I look forward to seeing you again.”
Step 4: Clean your car and know your way around
If you are planning on picking up your date, be sure to spend some time tidying your car. Just as you make an
impression, so does the cleanliness of your vehicle. Even if it’s an old model, show you have self respect by
keeping it clean and smelling good. Burger wrappers and old soda cans are not appealing.
Also, be sure to map out the area or venue location prior to picking up your date. Getting lost or being late
for a reservation will show a lack of responsibility and planning. Your date will think you didn’t take much time
to arrange a special time if you don’t know where you are heading and are just winging it.
Step 5: Be on Time
Always be on time. If unforeseen circumstances caused you to be late, always call, don’t text that you are
behind schedule. Keep things personal and show your consideration. Apologize for any delays and make it up to them
in some small way such as pick up a flower or something sentimental.
Step 6: During the Date Etiquette
For guys – always open her door, pull up her chair and treat her with respect.
When sitting at a restaurant, proper etiquette suggests the girl sit facing out towards the entrance and the guy
in opposition (not nestled up next to each other, unless it is a more advanced date.)
Ask her opinion before ordering drinks; have her taste the wine with you and determine together if you like
something. Always be polite, ask questions and avoid talking the entire time. Be sure your date has a chance to
share. It is important to stay away from topics about ex’s, sex or anything negative.
Step 7: Be Spontaneous
After the date think of something spur of the moment to do such as desert at a local bakery/coffee house or a
romantic stroll or carriage ride. This will end the date with something memorable and unexpected.
Step 8: Ending the Date
Depending on whether it’s the first time out or not will help you determine how to end the date. If it is the first date then a cordial goodbye with a
soft kiss is a good way to go. If it is several dates in and you feel you are both ready to heat things up, ask to
come in or invite them over to your place. Don’t place any pressure on your date. If they seem reticent always be
respectful and consider the prolonged intimacy a nice form of foreplay.
If you are a guy, always walk her to the door. By following these steps to arranging a date you will have an
advanced technique and gain success in repeat dates. You will also
be respected for your genuine courtesy and thoughtfulness as well as your ability to plan and organize.
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