How to Set Up the Next Date
It is hard enough to start up a conversation with a
girl you’ve just met, let alone having her give you her number.
But that hardship fades in comparison to having to set up the next date with a girl you’re talking to for the
It is arguably one of the biggest hurdles that men have as far as success with woman is concerned.
‘Setting up the date’ is basically the first part of the dating skill set. When you set up your next date
perfectly, you’ll make the rest easier. What follows is a tried and tested date set up model that is bound to lead
to more successful dates.
Have a plan
Firstly, you need to have some sort of plan to invite your object of attraction to. If you have a set date to
invite a girl to, it makes your life much easier. Once that one is in place, setting up the next one will be far
too easy and you won’t have to worry about it.
Seed your plan
What you want to do next is to seed your plan. You can do this by describing something about the place you want
to take your girl to. Talk about the place like you’re very familiar with it.
Oversell the plan but don’t invite her
In other words, ‘oversell’ the place without inviting her. Why is this tactic very powerful? Because she’s more
likely to believe that the place is fun if you talk about it in a way that is not a direct approach
of inviting her.
So, just describe whatever it is that makes the place nice but in a way that would make it seem like the best
place in the world to hang out. Do not invite her at this point, in fact, give it about 5 to 10 minutes before
moving on to the next part of the date set up.
The next part is to invite her to the place with a qualifier
Start with something like this, ‘Now that we’ve been talking for a while, I think you’re a great person and I’d
like you to come along for bowling next Tuesday. But I’ll only take you along if you promise to do one thing; buy
me a drink! ’
You’re inviting her but again placing a hoop for her to jump in order to be accepted to the date. The more you
make it less obvious for her to come, the more she’s likely to show up.
Finally, get her number.
The last thing to do on your date set up is to get her number so that you can follow up with the plan. The
thing is that even if you now have her number, she still has control on whether to pick up your calls, or to show
up for the date. What you will be looking to avoid is being
flaked, so mind the way you do the follow up.
If you do this set up perfectly when you’ve just met a woman, you will be able to convince any woman to go on
the next date with you.
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