Creating Intimacy and Trust With Women: 4 Secrets
You know, in spite of how important our personal relationships with women are, most of us men are completely
clueless when it comes to one thing: Building greater intimacy and
Just think about how many women you meet you are carrying residual trust issues from past relationships with
men. Surely, there are a lot men who are complete flops in the building trust department.
But did you know that increasing the level of trust and intimacy in your relationships (all of them) can
actually make you a better person, transform your dating life and give you an AMAZING sex life?
If this has you itching to know more, let's get right into the four secrets of building trust and
#1 Clarifying Expectations
Think back on all of your relationships where trust was violated, I can bet you that most violations were a
result of unclear expectations. When you first enter a relationship with anyone (especially a woman), it's vital
that you make your expectations crystal clear up front.
This means both in relation to what do you need from the relationship and what you believe that she needs. The
other options is saying nothing and depending on "fate" to bring you someone who can read your mind and vice
versa....sorry, not happening.
Having clear expectations helps you to develop a mutual standard on which trust can be established. If you're in
a relationship where you have not yet taken this step, sit down with your woman and be honest about what both of
your expectations are. Otherwise, you might build your relationship only to find that you have made beds in a
#2 Accepting Limitations
It's not enough to clarify your expectations to your woman, you also need to be honest with both yourself and
her about where your limitations are. If your woman is "high maintenance" and you commit to meeting her
expectations today, you may find later on that your "mouth has written a check that your ass can't cash. "
It's typical of us men to get hooked on the "sugar rush" of making verbal commitments to a woman...only to find
that the actual act of following through with those commitments causes us to become bitter and fatigued.
At the same time, it's also important that you don't put expectations on your woman which exceed
her limitations to fulfillment them. This is another reason why it is so important to sit down with your partner
get clarity about your expectations for the relationship.
#3 The Law of Reciprocity
The law of reciprocity is not some obscure new age spiritual law. It is a rock solid fact that what you expect
to receive in life must be balanced by an equal amount of getting. Do you want your woman to trust you? Then you
must be willing to trust her.
Do you want your woman to respect you? You must be willing to respect her. Do you want your woman to meet your
emotional needs for significance, certainty, connection and variety? Then start by asking yourself how you are
giving these things to her. Relationships obey the same laws of nature which cause our economy to run and which
cause natural ecosystems to function properly.
One of the most important natural laws is this: There is no such thing as something for nothing.
Did you know that you can't trust a person who consistently lies more than someone who sometimes lies and
sometimes tells the truth? Think about it, when a person is consistent it's easy for you to set expectations upon
which you can set boundaries in the relationship.
But a person who is inconsistent is impossible to build trust with. What is the most important way to practice
consistency? Two things:
- Know what's really important to you
- Back up your words with actions
TIP: Write down these four principles: clarifying expectations, accepting limitations, the law of reciprocity
and consistency. Check yourself everyday and make sure that you are integrating them into all of your
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